so you'd like to be friends...

the first thing to know is we are very difficult to know. for the most part, we do not trust people easily, and it's very easy for us to disconnect from people that we feel unsafe interacting with. small talk is typically ignored, because i'm genuinely clueless on how to continue those conversations, and so is any form of pushiness for obvious reasons

please keep in mind we answer inconsistently, patience is absolutely necessary. if you make fun of us for anything outside our control (mainly referring to mh and weight), that typically blacklists you mentally because you're no longer a safe place. also disliking any of my close friends i already trust does the same. invalidating people for fun is a huge turn away, red flags from many prior.

we are relatively open minded, but dedicated to the voices of people in need and prefer to have friends that are also. we like to hold our friends accountable and have our friends hold us accountable for things we're not being true to ourselves about. a lot of these interactions are uncomfortable or may seem malicious, but everything that's said is done so out of the greater good for those we love